Does my wife love me? Does my husband love me?
It is a question that is very frequently asked on search engines. The straightforward answer is a big NO. yes, your wife/husband does not love you. She does not love any tom, dick or harry. if she loves tom, she does not love tom’s name or tom’s individual existence on this planet earth, rather she loves some strengths that tom has. You can put it this way, her love is not unconditional.
When you love some one, you does not love his or her existence. You love some of his or her traits and strengths. Those traits or strengths can be appearance, physical power, wisdom, good manners, education, good habits etc… if some one loved you because of your facial beauty, that love would definitely fade away as soon as the beauty fades away and if some one was attracted to you because of your soft speaking style the relationship will exist as long as you remain a cool personality.
So, it is very important to understand what traits of you appeal the most to your partner. you should focus on enhancing those traits, love would automatically follow you. Love can not be dictated, created or destroyed. Love is a spontaneous feeling
Those who beg for love are the ignorant. The beggars can get mercy but not love. if you are not being loved, never try to beg for it. Rather search those traits and strengths which are loved.
Different persons may have different priorities. For some, being handsome or beautiful may be the most valuable. For some women the physical strength and the sense of security may be the most important. The economic stability, no doubt, is the priority of every women. Some women may be impressed by your high ethical standards, caring habits and education. Men may be mostly fascinated by physical fitness and smartness. Also, the men tend to be easy going and want peace at home. They want to be appreciated for their handwork and need a lot of encouragement by their life partners for the life challenges and endeavors. So all you need to do is to find out what type of man or woman your life partner is and then enhance that strength or trait in yourself.
We are usually accustomed to our blood relations(like parents and siblings) since childhood. The blood relations are very different from marital relations. The blood relations may have unconditioned love and care. But the marital relations are actually contracts where you make a deal to live together after finalizing some gives and takes. That contract stays as long as the promised or expected gives and takes are fulfilled. Otherwise, your wife or your husband is as alien or stranger as any other person on the street.